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Title: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on June 18, 2007, 09:19:01 AM
LIFE can be cruel sometimes,  :( .
I don't want to sound morbid but, I thought I would start a thread with sad things that happen. Hoping that we can learn from the different tragedies that happen.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on June 18, 2007, 09:21:08 AM
Know what to do in a lightning storm!

WARNING!! The following thread is a sad one! (NO pictures, don't worry)

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/LAC.20070618.LIGHTNING18/TPStory/National
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on June 18, 2007, 12:02:43 PM
That's really sad, CL.  :'(

There's only one thing I'm sad about. My good friend has anorexia. She will go to England to be an au pair in autumn and I'm afraid we will never see her again. We've tried to talk to her, but with no results.  :'(

Oh, there is actually another thing. I didn't get to school as I already said in The Endless Pointless thread..  :-\
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on June 18, 2007, 01:13:14 PM
Many blessing for your friend Satu!!  :'(

Sorry about not getting into school, next year hopefully??  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on June 18, 2007, 03:31:42 PM
satu , perhaps when your friend gets to England things may improve.    It is such a dreadful problem and so difficult to help the sufferer.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on June 19, 2007, 01:12:12 AM
I'm not very optimistic with her situation. She is so thin already (30-32 kilos), and she doesn't admit she has a problem.  :'( I don't think things will get better when she goes there. The au pair family in England has seen her picture and said nothing. But they couldn't see her arms in the picture, then they would have noticed if they had seen them. My friends have talked to her mom (although I'm not sure of that, they shut me out of the whole thing :(). I hope they can convince at least her about my friend's problem.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lilly on July 06, 2007, 10:43:32 AM
Know what to do in a lightning storm!

Such a shame, if they'd known to stay away from the tree they might have been OK.  Stay safe: http://www.wate.com/Global/story.asp?S=368088

What it doesn't mention is that if you are caught outside, try to get your feet off the ground.  If you have a rucksack on, sit/squat on it.  My mum, sister and I were once walking on some fells in Northumberland in an electric snow storm, when our hair suddenly stood on end, and there was a really weird feeling, buzzing sounds, an atmosphere I haven't experienced before.  We got out of there asap!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lilly on July 06, 2007, 11:05:55 AM
This lightning stuff is quite interesting.  I found a better safety site: http://therucksack.tripod.com/lightning.htm

There also seems to be debate about whether getting insulation between yourself and the ground is effective http://www.backpacker.com/article/1,2646,919_P,00.html Personally I'd rather try it just in case it did work!

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"In a high-risk situation, assuming the lightning-safety position on some kind of insulating material may offer the right person at the right time some protection," says Eric Johnson, M.D., a physician in Idaho who specializes in outdoor medicine and training. It can't hurt in other words.

Wikipedia has some detail on the physics of lightning. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lightning
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on September 11, 2007, 09:54:15 AM
My friends 3 year old was just diagnosed with Stevens Johnson Syndrome. It started out with her having blisters in her mouth and they moved to the outside of her mouth and now have enveloped her whole face and moved down her body. Her eyes have almost shut with the swelling and if she gets the blisters on her eyes it could result in blindness. She is currently in a burn unit being treated. Please pray for her! Thank you, CL!  :'(

SJS can effect anybody at any time and is due to a allergic reaction to over the counter medicines! SJS can be fatal!! Please read the following link and protect yourselves!

http://www.sjsupport.org/
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on September 11, 2007, 04:16:46 PM
What a terrible thing to afflict a small child! I hope she has a complete recovery!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: lovelyrita on September 14, 2007, 10:36:57 PM
LIFE can be cruel sometimes,  :( .
I don't want to sound morbid but, I thought I would start a thread with sad things that happen. Hoping that we can learn from the different tragedies that happen.

Actually this is a good thread. I am a social worker and bad things happen to good people all the time.  Satu, I also feel for your friend who has the eating disorder. I have seen the disorder first hand and it is a difficult one for those who suffer from it to conquer. There is so much in life we can't control. Although many people view these behaviors as self-destructive , most individuals who develop eating disorders do not usually perceive their behaviors as hurting themselves. The most common reason professionals hear from people about why they began self-starvation is that at some point they felt terribly out of control. I feel for your friend.

My husband  died when my daughter was a little girl, it was tough, not only for me but for our daughter. I am proud of her as she has turned into a fine human being (I wouldn't know what to do without her and she is the best part of him) but she was cheated not having a "Dad".  I was really "crazy" about him. Whenever I listen to Etta James song, "At Last" it describes our relationship. We were "evenly yoked".  There is a line in the movie "Moonstruck" when Loretta says to her father about her husband passing away, "How did I know he was a gift I wasn't able to keep."  That sums it up for me. Sorry to run on, thx CL for starting this thread and allowing us to share.

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on September 17, 2007, 08:54:00 AM
 :'( Sorry to hear about that lovelyrita. It sounds like you are a strong lady! Your right, alot of bad stuff happens to good people, and from these bad things it makes them stronger! Take care and keep looking up!!  O0
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on March 05, 2008, 01:41:43 PM
I just heard on the radio that Patrick Swayze has been diagnosed with cancer and only has 5 weeks to live.


Livenews.com.au (http://www.livenews.com.au/Articles/2008/03/06/Patrick_Swayze_has_five_weeks_to_live)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on March 05, 2008, 02:11:18 PM
I just heard on the radio that Patrick Swayze has been diagnosed with cancer and only has 5 weeks to live.

This is so very sad!!! I really like Patrick Swayze!!! God Bless him, I hope he can fight the cancer!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Americanbeauty on March 05, 2008, 09:02:19 PM
I just heard on the radio that Patrick Swayze has been diagnosed with cancer and only has 5 weeks to live.

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Wolf issued a written statement from his physician, Dr. George Fisher that said: "Patrick has a very limited amount of disease and he appears to be responding well to treatment."

"All of the reports stating the timeframe of his prognosis and his physical side effects are absolutely untrue," Fisher said in the statement. "We are considerably more optimistic."
Link (http://www.reuters.com/article/peopleNews/idUSN0562427520080306)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on March 05, 2008, 09:38:31 PM
I was a little hesitant to post that this morning thinking it may not be true, but thought the radio down here are usually pretty reliable with their info.

Good to hear it's not as bleak as first reported.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on March 05, 2008, 09:46:40 PM
It's still pretty bleak, though. Here's hoping he responds well to treatment.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on March 07, 2008, 02:56:54 AM
I second your thought KC.   It is very sad but he seems to be fighting hard according to our news this morning.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on September 23, 2008, 09:21:42 AM
It has been a sad day for finns.  :'(

I was at school today when we heard that someone has been shooting in a school in Kauhajoki. These kind of things rarely happen in our country, and was a huge shock for everyone. Especially because a year ago in Jokela there was a shooting just like this one. The guy who did the shooting today, tried to execute it the same way that it was done last year. Same caliber and everything. He put a video in youtube where he shoots with his gun and says "you'll die next". And that was just days before he actually started shooting. He was 22 years old and he was a student in that school. 11 got killed.

Today it felt kind of unsafe at school.  :-\
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on September 23, 2008, 01:17:04 PM
satu we heard the news in the UK today and we were sad to learn so many had been killed.   There seems to be no reason for the killings and I can understand why you would feel unsafe at school today.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on September 24, 2008, 07:24:48 PM
Sad news from Finland, indeed.

The New York Times website (http://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2008/09/24/nytfrontpage/20080924POD_6.html) had this photo of memorial candles burning near the school:

(http://graphics8.nytimes.com/images/2008/09/24/nytfrontpage/25145214.JPG)

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More candles were lit near the Kauhajoki Vocational High School in Kauhajoki, in western Finland. A 22-year-old student, Matti Juhani Saari, opened fire at the trade school on Tuesday, killing ten people and injuring one before shooting himself. It was Finland's second school massacre in less than a year.

Photo: Vesa Moilanen/Agence France-Presse -- Getty Images
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Richard Earl on September 24, 2008, 07:49:22 PM
I just do not understand why someone would do something like this. It saddens me.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on September 25, 2008, 01:16:28 AM
I just do not understand why someone would do something like this. It saddens me.

I agree with you Richard Earl.  The saddest part is he had planned this for a couple of years (so our papers tell us).  How dreadful to have lived that time knowing you planned to kill innocent students and a teacher for no apparent reason.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on September 25, 2008, 07:37:16 AM
And apparently he was acquintances with the boy who executed the last massacre in Jokela. They had planned it together. I think that the Kauhajoki massacre was supposed to be done at the same day (7th of November) as the one in Jokela last year, but he got in a horry because the police questioned him just a day before.  ???

I don't know.. Today it said on the newspaper that there will be people trying to imitate this. Some kind of an expert of criminal investigation said it. I hope not.  :-\
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Canadian Lady on March 05, 2010, 04:55:28 PM
Yesterday a man in our community died suddenly from a stroke. He came home from hockey practice and never made it inside the house. He was only 52.  :(
 
It sure puts things into perspective.
Hug your family and live everyday like there is no tommorow cause you never know........
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on March 06, 2010, 03:11:32 AM
That is sad CL.  52 is not old and he must have been fit to be playing hockey.   A Stroke can hit anyone at anytime without warning.   There is nothing you can do unlike heart problems some of which can be helped by lifestyle changes.   I am sure your whole community are sad to learn the news.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on March 06, 2010, 09:04:38 AM
Lin, though stroke can strike people of any age and lifestyle, there are some risk factors that people have some control over. See the Stroke Association's page on "Reducing Risk of Stroke" and the various links there:

http://www.strokeassociation.org/presenter.jhtml?identifier=3030166

Smoking was the first thing that came to my mind, but there are others.

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on May 04, 2010, 02:01:31 PM
My Nan has just died, she had a stroke 3 years ago and never got better. :'(
Also someone who I thought was a friend just stopped talking to me. :-[
If i don't post for a while, it's because this has hit me hard, we are all a close family.
take care everyone and I will be back soon.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on May 04, 2010, 05:18:30 PM
Twomules, I'm so sorry about your grandmother. You have my deepest condolences.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on May 04, 2010, 09:12:10 PM
I am sorry to read your last post Twomules.   I send you my sympathy.  Thinking of you .
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on May 05, 2010, 06:45:43 AM
I am so sorry about your grandmother.  I express condolences, Twomules.   Me too, I lost the person who was very dear recently....  :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread--Warning--It's a horror story
Post by: LCat on May 05, 2010, 09:16:20 PM
My friends 3 year old was just diagnosed with Stevens Johnson Syndrome. It started out with her having blisters in her mouth and they moved to the outside of her mouth and now have enveloped her whole face and moved down her body. Her eyes have almost shut with the swelling and if she gets the blisters on her eyes it could result in blindness. She is currently in a burn unit being treated. Please pray for her! Thank you, CL!  :'(

SJS can effect anybody at any time and is due to a allergic reaction to over the counter medicines! SJS can be fatal!! Please read the following link and protect yourselves!

http://www.sjsupport.org/

My aunt got SJS in the hospital from an IV antibiotic that she had a bad allergic reaction to, but the hospital wouldn't take her off of it when she started to have the reaction. It looked like all of her skin had been charred off,  like burnt barbecue. It was horrible. She didn't want to live that way. Anyway, after a long story, she got blood poisoning in that same hospital and she soon did die.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on May 09, 2010, 07:34:50 AM
Thanks, KC, Lin and higashimori, for your kind words of sympathy.
I am sorry higashimori that you also lost  someone, very dear to you recently  :-[
Title: 12 killed in Cumbria UK
Post by: Lin Sunderland on June 02, 2010, 12:31:27 PM
The UK news programs are showing reports of the dreadful shooting of 12 seemingly random people and the injuries of 25 by a  taxi driver who then killed himself.    Cumbria is only just coming to terms with the outcome of the awful bus crash last week. The funeral was held today for one of the teenagers who died in that tragedy.    Only last November the dreadful floods claimed the life of a policeman who was trying to stop traffic crossing a bridge when the bridge collaspsed under him and he was swept away by the river.  Cumbria is one of the most peaceful and beautiful counties in the UK.  The Lake District is visited by thousands of people from all over the world.   This whole thing is so very sad.


http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/10219655.stm

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on June 11, 2010, 03:06:11 AM
What a tragedy and sad news for Nelson Mandela before The Opening ceremony of the World Cup which he may participate!!
How is the feeling of aged Nelson Mandela........... ?  :'(
 
The accident did not choose the when and where, but a cheerful atmosphere before the opening is ruined by this tragedy.   There was a car accident during the parade of victory of French team which won of the World cup in Champs-Elysées, several years ago........!   :(

 " Mandela uncertain on W.Cup opener after family tragedy "

   AFP.   

Nelson Mandela's attendance at the World Cup opening ceremony was uncertain after the death of his great granddaughter in a car crash, his office said Friday.

  http://uk.news.yahoo.com/18/20100611/twl-mandela-uncertain-on-w-cup-opener-af-4bdc673.html
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Hemlock on August 06, 2010, 01:34:10 PM
I think this is maybe the best thread to tell you guys why I´ve not been around as often as I used to (if anybody have noticed)...but 19.5.my wife told me that she wants to divorce me(the reason was:"you don`t change") just after 1,5 years of marriage (although we had been together more or less 8 ears) and as it was completly surprise to me I was some what not my ownself for awhile...not intrested on films(Eastwood included),music and such but hey life goes on and luckily her 12 year old son whom I´ve watched grown from the age of 3 years still wants to be with me  8) So he spends every other week with me which is cool and big from her mother.
Could not say that I´m over anything just yet but moved on and every day is little brighter and I feel more of myself and therefore ready to get back to be"full member" of this great forum  ;)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on August 06, 2010, 05:07:52 PM
Sorry to hear that mate but welcome back, good to see you posting again.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on August 06, 2010, 05:11:13 PM
I'm sorry for your troubles, Hemlock, but I'm glad you're feeling better and will be back to posting more often. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on August 06, 2010, 05:57:42 PM
Sorry to hear the news, Hemlock. And yes, we always notice when one of our regulars disappears for a while, so it's great to see you back and hopefully things will be OK and we'll see you posting more often again real soon.

Take care.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on August 06, 2010, 07:08:39 PM
I am sorry Hemlock,  but "C'est la vie !"  And it's nice to keeping good relation with her son.... Courage!!  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on August 06, 2010, 11:07:06 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, Hemlock. I really hope everything will turn out to be fine.  :)


Tule pian takaisin! Tsemppiä!   :)
(Come back soon, take care.)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Sylvie on August 07, 2010, 01:14:05 AM
 :) Hemlock, I hope you will feel better soon, the "positive" in that sad story is the link between the young boy and yourself ... Bon courage !
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on August 07, 2010, 06:54:33 AM
I was wondering where you were, Hem ???

What is there to say? Relationships are complicated. For your post, I feel you are getting through it very well.
Hope you come back posting real soon :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on August 08, 2010, 05:46:03 AM
I am sorry to read your sad news Hemlock.   I do hope you are OK and can begin to re-start your life.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Hemlock on August 11, 2010, 10:10:54 AM
Thank you all!

I´m actually doing fine already.I´m not sure how long someone should feel bad after the divorce(actually I won`t be divorced until 2.12.2010) but I´m already fed up feeling bad and all the negative things that occurs when things like this happen.
I had a good talk with Ex the other day about how we are going to work together to make things better for his son in the future.Oddly enough we were in the same page all the time.So things looks promising in that department.She told me that the little dude is very much looking forward to come to my place next week  8) I guess we both are counting the days  ;D

Also there might be someone new already... ;)

Thanks again guys  O0
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on August 11, 2010, 06:20:56 PM
I'm glad you're keeping the the connection with the boy, Hemlock! And I hope it works out with "someone new." :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Conan on August 12, 2010, 12:24:02 AM
  Sorry to hear the news Hemlock.  Good luck with your new situation.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on August 12, 2010, 10:04:04 AM
I'm sorry to hear your sad news Hemlock, I hope that you can soon begin to re-start your life.

It's great that you are keeping in contact with the boy :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on August 12, 2010, 10:21:34 AM
Good Luck Hemlock.  It is good to know you will have contact with the little boy.  I hope your new relationship works out.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on August 13, 2010, 01:36:58 AM
Just when I thought this year couldn't get any worse than it has been, I've got a good friend in hospital for an operation last Wednesday to remove a small tumor just under his eye and while he is under the knife, the doctors find it has spread through his whole face and up towards his brain.

After a 12 hour operation, the doctors say they got all the tumor which is a good thing but half his face is gone. It will take further surgery to fix it.

It really stretches my faith when I see good people suffer like this. I don't know how more I can take.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Sylvie on August 13, 2010, 01:46:27 AM
What an horrible thing, it's so hard and moving to see someone suffering ...
I think of you a lot SK, ggod luck to your Friend, I know how you feel, one one my best friends has got a brain tumour that can't be taken off, that is terrible to see him suffer so much and cry sometimes, how desesperate he is, terrible headhaches that make him shout and left him almost mad  ...
But face is so important, poor man, how frightening it is ... Hold on SK, even if it's "easy" to say ...
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on August 13, 2010, 05:13:23 AM
SK, this is so sad and horrible :'(

I am very sorry to hear about your friend in hospital and the pain he must be going through :(

It true about the saying,"There is always someone worse off than you".

I will be thinking about you and your friend and pray he will be alright.

I can understand why we all question are faith when we see good people suffering, life can be real bad sometimes!





Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on August 13, 2010, 05:50:33 AM
I'm really sorry hearing that, Kid.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on August 13, 2010, 06:52:19 AM
SK, that is horrible. I'm so sorry to hear it.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on August 13, 2010, 11:02:19 AM
SK that is so sad for your friend and for you too. 
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on August 13, 2010, 04:16:24 PM
Sorry to hear that mate. It must be a terrible pill to swallow for family and friends such as yourself.

My heart goes out to you and those affected by this tragedy.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on August 13, 2010, 05:45:21 PM
There's a rift in my family that probably can't be mended, and will probably require a lawyer. I'll be glad when this rift is filled in. Still, I'm not letting it keep me from the summer, my favorite time of year--Bring back the beach!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on August 14, 2010, 02:49:12 AM
Thanks for all the kind words.

I really appreciate them and all the PM's have touched me. I can't thank everyone enough for thinking of little ole me.

You guys and gals are the best.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on August 15, 2010, 04:00:28 PM
Sorry, SK, I've been so inundated with my own issues that I didn't notice about your friend. My mom had a rare tumor on the pituitary that was causing her to go blind. The operation was a success, and it took a very long time for her face to heal, but it healed. I hope your friend's face heals well, too.

LCat
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: -satu- on August 16, 2010, 01:20:58 AM
I'm really sorry to hear that, Kid.  :-\
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on August 17, 2010, 12:15:43 AM
I saw my friend in Hospital yesterday and he was in great spirits after what he's been through and will no doubt be going through for a while yet.

Half his face isn't gone thankfully. I wasn't told the correct story and it was the muscle and tissue under his skin that was gone and had to be replaced with muscle and tissue from his thigh. His face is still very swollen and the stitches run from ear to ear across the top of his skull, where they had to pull the skin down, so he was unreconizable when I walked into his ward.

They're still not sure if he'll lose the sight in one eye and will have to wait for the swelling to go down.

I was able to hold it together while I was in the room and we chatted for ages as if we normally would but once I came out I had to sit down outside and shed a few tears before being able to drive home.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on August 17, 2010, 01:19:14 AM
Your reaction is perfectly normal SK.  Great that you were able to chat as normal with him and not show him the enormity of his situation in your face.  Keep visiting and it will get easier and he will appreciate it, believe me.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on August 17, 2010, 02:13:47 AM
Bloody sweet mate. The more good news the better.

His spirits is the main thing and good friends like yourself and others will help in more ways than one.

Keep us posted my friend and let him know there are many, that are thinking of him. Clint fans far and wide.

We have got the world covered in that respect. ;)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on August 17, 2010, 05:57:50 AM
This was so heartbreaking, SK. You are a great friend. I really hope the doctors are be able to save you friend's eye.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on August 17, 2010, 06:55:19 AM
That's so sad, but I'm glad it wasn't as bad as you had heard. It's great of you to visit and keep his spirits up. I hope all goes as well as possible!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Richard Earl on August 17, 2010, 06:57:48 AM
SK that is great to hear man that his face is not as bad as was expected.  Good friends like yourself are one of few brother.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on August 17, 2010, 12:24:00 PM
SK, I am glad to hear your friend's face is not as bad as you first expected.

Seeing him would have been a shock to the System, I'm glad you took time out before you drove home, you must have been very emotional.
I hope you friend makes a great recovery and I hope his eyesight will be ok.

He must feel proud to have a friend like you, you are a true friend and a brother in arms :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on August 17, 2010, 09:13:17 PM
SK, I'm glad things are better for your friend than you expected.  Hopefully his eye will be alright.  I'll be thinking of you both.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on August 17, 2010, 11:27:21 PM
Thanks again everyone. I really haven't been with it the last few days and I don't know why I do get so emotional about things these days but I can't seem to get through a day without becoming a blubbering mess at some stage.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on October 15, 2010, 04:12:06 PM
My husband's brother-in-law passed away yesterday.  We found out this morning.  He had suffered with cancer for the past two or three years and we knew he didn't have long, but it always comes as a shock when a man in the prime of life is taken away from his family.  He was only 56 and leaves behind a wife and 9-year-old daughter.  I'll really miss John because we had one special thing in common--we couldn't understand the rest of the family when they talked in Chinese.  We got a lot of conversation time together that way.   :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on October 15, 2010, 04:30:40 PM
Elizabeth77, I am sorry about your husband's brother-in-law. You have my deepest condolences. :(
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Post by: KC on October 15, 2010, 05:33:26 PM
I'm so sorry, Elizabeth77! You have my condolences, also.
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Post by: The Schofield Kid on October 15, 2010, 10:16:57 PM
My condolences also Elizabeth77 to you and your family at this difficult time.

Take care.
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Post by: Lin Sunderland on October 16, 2010, 01:27:28 AM
I am so sorry Elizabeth77.  I am thinking of you and your family at this sad time.
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Post by: Aline on October 16, 2010, 06:37:06 AM
I'm very sorry hearing that, Elizabeth :'(
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Post by: Elizabeth77 on October 16, 2010, 05:42:14 PM
Thank you all for your kind condolences.  Friends like you are a great comfort.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on October 30, 2010, 03:23:02 AM
I've been trying to post this for the last week or so but each time I've started I've gotten too upset and quit.

My friend has lost the sight in his eye. I know it could've beeen a lot worse and that's what everyone keeps trying to tell me but I've just been so upset about it and with other things going on at the same time, I just feel so down some days. The nerves around his eye are so damaged that he can't even open his eye.

To the people who have PM'd me, I thank you. I'm sorry if I came across as angry and that was one of the reason I went MIA for a couple of days during the week.

I'm also sorry for the wackyness in some of my posts since I've been back, but being here with friends and having a laugh has helped a lot and I try not too think too much about other things and just get on here and forget about my troubles. I know I blame the alcohol in some posts and that may be more of a problem than I want to admit now, but it's you guys and gals here that keep me going. If I ever do cross the line with some remarks, just PM me and tell me.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on October 30, 2010, 09:24:36 AM
I'm so sorry about your friend, SK!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on October 30, 2010, 02:46:16 PM
Sorry to hear that, mate!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on October 30, 2010, 03:36:19 PM
I'm Sorry to hear the bad news about your friend, SK!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on November 30, 2010, 02:08:17 PM
My mom called to tell me that my uncle passed away this afternoon.  I knew he didn't have much time left, so I wrote him an email on Sunday telling him what he has meant in my life.  He was too weak to take phone calls, but one of my cousins read the email to him when he was alert.  I don't know when his memorial service will be, but I'll be going.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on November 30, 2010, 02:29:09 PM
Elizabeth,  That is very sad.  At least you were able to tell him how you felt about him and he knew you were thinking of him.  I send you my thoughts and sympathy.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on November 30, 2010, 03:21:50 PM
I'm very sorry, Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on November 30, 2010, 03:23:46 PM
Elizabeth, My deepest condolences to you and your family. :(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Richard Earl on November 30, 2010, 04:59:35 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on November 30, 2010, 07:19:58 PM
My condolences, Elizabeth!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on November 30, 2010, 09:44:26 PM
So sorry to hear that Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on November 30, 2010, 10:06:59 PM
So sorry to hear that news Elizabeth. Take care and my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on December 01, 2010, 07:44:39 AM
Thank you Lin, Aline, 2M, Rich, KC, SC and SK for your kind thoughts and prayers.  They are greatly appreciated.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: GreenEyes on December 01, 2010, 09:00:22 AM
I'm sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family, Elizabeth77.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on December 01, 2010, 02:04:01 PM
Thank you, GreenEyes.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on December 01, 2010, 07:41:58 PM
Sorry for your loss, Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on December 05, 2010, 07:02:17 PM

That is very sad.   My condolences, Elizabeth.





Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on December 05, 2010, 07:54:30 PM
Thank you, LCat and Higgy.  You are very kind.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 19, 2010, 10:41:15 AM
My father-in-law passed away last night. :'(

I feel so sorry for my wife because she lost her mother 12 years ago and she is so devastated. :'(

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: GreenEyes on December 19, 2010, 10:57:48 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that 2M. My condolences to you and your family.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on December 19, 2010, 11:02:04 AM
Sorry to hear that mate. My condolences 2M.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on December 19, 2010, 12:17:21 PM
Sorry to hear this news 2M. My condolences to you and your family.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 19, 2010, 01:11:59 PM
Thank you GreenEyes, SC and SK.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on December 19, 2010, 01:45:51 PM
My father-in-law passed away last night. :'(

I feel so sorry for my wife because she lost her mother 12 years ago and she is so devastated. :')


Sorry for your loss. My parents are gone, too, so I can relate. I hope the pleasant memories replace these sad memories soon.

LCat
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 19, 2010, 01:50:23 PM
Thank you LCat.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on December 19, 2010, 01:57:11 PM
I am very sorry, TwoMules. My condolences to your wife too.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 19, 2010, 01:59:27 PM
Thank you Aline.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on December 19, 2010, 02:38:59 PM
2M, I am so sorry.  My condolences to you and your family, but especially your wife.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on December 19, 2010, 04:53:55 PM
My condolences to you and your wife, 2M!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 19, 2010, 05:13:19 PM
Thank you Elizabeth77 and KC.

I will shown my wife all your messages tomorrow. She is taking it bad and It's heartbreaking! :'(

Thank you all for your kind and comforting words.

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on December 19, 2010, 07:59:43 PM

I am so sorry, TwoMules, very sad news in this season... all my condolences to your wife and your family.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on December 20, 2010, 04:45:06 PM
2M  I am so very sorry to read your sad news.   I am sure your wife will be devastated it is so hard when are parents leave us.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on December 21, 2010, 11:51:45 AM
Thank you Higgy and Lin.

THANKS everyone for the condolences and supportive messages on the board and your PMs. Your words of comfort have be very moving and it is such a pleasure to have some wonderful caring people here on the CEWB.  God bless you all.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on December 30, 2010, 10:30:57 PM
Life is funny sometimes and the way things happen. I'm sure there is a reason for the way things happen but I still shake my head sometimes and today was no exception.

A colleague at work has inoperable cancer, so this week there has been fund raisers going on at work to help him and his family out. I bought a raffle ticket for $20. It got you a number in the powerball draw last night. If your number match the powerball, you won $450.00 while the other $450.00 raised would go to the family.

I've been feeling really good these past few weeks and I said to myself when I purchased the ticket that if I'd won, the money would go straight into the fundraising tin. It's strange, but I had a feeling that I would win it. I don't know why, I mean the odds were 45 to 1 of me winning but I just knew I would.

I got to work this morning and someone mentions the powerball number and lo and behold it's mine. As soon as the money was handed to me, it went straight into the tin.

Some thought I was mad, while others admired me for it.

I don't know, to me, it just seemed the right thing to do.

Sherwin passed away this morning. As much as we prayed for a miracle recovery, the cancer had just spread too much so fast through his body that it was only a matter of time. I suppose the small miracle was that he survived long enough to see his baby boy being born a few weeks ago and was able to spend Christmas day with him and his wife at home.

I didn't know Sherwin very well as he worked a different shift to me but on the rare occasion I did see him, he always had a smile on his face and always stopped for a chat about the weather or work or whatever.

It was nice of management to fly the Australian flag outside at half mast and we had a minutes' silence in his memory at 10am.

I know I've had some problems this year but it pales in comparison to what Sherwin bravely battled and what his wife and baby now face.

RIP Sherwin.  :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Southern cat on December 31, 2010, 12:26:28 AM
RIP Sherwin.  :(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on December 31, 2010, 12:39:50 AM
RIP, Sherwin. SK, that was a very nice gesture on your part, giving all your winnings to the fund.

I really feel bad for his family, but at least they had a last Christmas together.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on December 31, 2010, 01:11:53 AM
RIP Sherwin

His family must be devastated. Torn between joy at the birth of his baby and so very sad at his passing.   He saw his child and had a last Christmas with his wife.  I too feel for her and her loss and the little one to lose a father before he had a chance to know him.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Sylvie on December 31, 2010, 04:10:58 AM
RIP Sherwin

What a sad news, and so many sad days for his wife, family and friends ... Poor Baby too.
Life is so cruel ...
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Aline on December 31, 2010, 07:10:46 AM
I am very sorry hearing that, SK. May God gives strenght to Sherwin's family.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on December 31, 2010, 02:26:11 PM
What sad news!  My heart goes out to Sherwin's family.  I'll be praying especially for them.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: GreenEyes on January 01, 2011, 05:37:28 AM
RIP, Sherwin. SK, that was a very nice gesture on your part, giving all your winnings to the fund.


Agreed. My condolences on the loss of your co-worker, SK.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on January 01, 2011, 03:22:02 PM
SK, My condolences on the loss of your co-worker Sherwin.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on January 01, 2011, 07:03:04 PM

So sad! The life is cruel sometime especially when there is a baby...., my condolences to Sherwin's  family left.
 
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on April 22, 2012, 07:46:03 PM
My mother-in-law passed away last Thursday morning (April 19).  It was just a month since she went into hospital, and less since she was diagnosed with late-stage cancer and tuberculosis.  She was 85 and had no desire to fight the disease even if she could have.  She was a quiet little lady who was afraid of many things, but she was not afraid to die.  She lived a good life and was proud of her children and grandchildren.  David, the boys and I will fly to Taipei, Taiwan for her memorial service in 2 1/2 weeks.  We had hoped to visit her then, but it wasn't to be.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on April 22, 2012, 09:12:56 PM
My mother-in-law passed away last Thursday morning (April 19).  It was just a month since she went into hospital, and less since she was diagnosed with late-stage cancer and tuberculosis.  She was 85 and had no desire to fight the disease even if she could have.  She was a quiet little lady who was afraid of many things, but she was not afraid to die.  She lived a good life and was proud of her children and grandchildren.  David, the boys and I will fly to Taipei, Taiwan for her memorial service in 2 1/2 weeks.  We had hoped to visit her then, but it wasn't to be.


My condolences to you and your family, Elizabeth77. My thoughts and prayers are with you. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on April 22, 2012, 11:01:32 PM
My condolences, Elizabeth. You've written a very nice eulogy for her there.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Sylvie on April 23, 2012, 02:05:18 AM
Condoleances and thoughts for all your Family Elisabeth ...
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on April 23, 2012, 06:40:10 PM

 My condolences to you and your family, Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on April 24, 2012, 06:27:06 AM
Elizabeth77, I am so sorry about your husband's Mother. You have my deepest condolences. :'(
My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this sad time.
God Bless.

I had an Email this morning from Jed Cooper and he is sorry to hear your sad news and asked me to pass his condolences on to you.

Jed Cooper
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So sorry for your loss, Elizabeth77.  My heart goes out to you and your family, as well as my prayers.

 
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Richard Earl on April 24, 2012, 11:45:04 AM
My thoughts and prayers are being sent Elizabeth77.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on April 24, 2012, 10:19:18 PM
My thoughts are with you and your family Elizabeth77. 

I am so sorry to hear your sad news.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: AKA23 on April 26, 2012, 06:46:29 PM
On Saturday, I had a pretty bad day! I was volunteering for Earth Fair, staffing a booth in support of Proposition 29, which is the Cancer Research Act, which, if it passes on June 5th, will make California the second place in the world for cancer research. if you are a California voter, please educate yourself on this life-saving initiative, or feel free to PM me off board. The moderators frown on political discussions on the board, so please do message me privately if you're interested in learning more. Anyway, I was volunteering for Earth Fair, seeking to get the word out on this initiative. I got there before the Fair started. I had a lot of difficulty finding any parking, but I saw that a few cars were parked in a certain area, so I decided to park behind them. What I didn't know was that these cars were actually vendors, who had also come early to set up their booths. When the Fair started, the people who had parked in these spots  moved them, and my car was still there. When I went to leave after having finished my shift, my car was gone. There weren't any signs indicating that it was not okay to park where I did. I later learned that my car had been towed. It was quite the hassle getting information about where the car was and how I could get it out, but I eventually did. I called the towing company, and they told me that I could not get my car, since I am not the registered owner of the vehicle. That honor belongs to my father. So, here I am, stranded at Earth Fair, with no car and no way to get the car, so I had to call my Dad. He had to come pick me up. Neither my Dad or I are very good at directions, so even though I got directions on my phone, it was difficult to find the place. We ended up having to pay $350 to get my car out of impound. In addition to that, I got a $77 ticket which I have to pay. So, here I am, volunteering for my community, and it costs me more than $400!

While all this was going on, I got a text from my best friend of 15 years that his fiancé had broken up with him. I called him immediately, but when my Dad came to pick me up, I had to let him go. He called several times after that, but since I was trying to find out where the place was to get my car, I couldn't talk to him. A couple of days before she broke up with him, my friend's ex-fiance said she wanted to get together while she was visiting San Diego. I thought this was a bit strange, since we are really not friends, but she seemed nice the times we did hang out together, so I got together with her. When I met up with her, she started telling me how she really wished she could spend the summer with her Mom in San Diego, and that it wouldn't really bother her if she didn't see my best-friend for a few months as long as he was okay. I found this strange, so I probed a little deeper. At that point, she began to tell me how she wasn't really attracted in a romantic sense to my best friend, and started telling me intimate personal details about her relationship with him. Since he is my best friend, I was a bit uncomfortable. She said she didn't really want to get married and really saw my best friend, who she was planning on marrying, as a really good friend but not somebody that she wanted to marry. Since they have been together for three years, I found this to be very odd. I told her that I thought it was irresponsible of her to engage in a relationship for three years with someone for whom she felt this way, and I tried to encourage her to appreciate all of the good things that my best friend offers her that she would likely not be able to find in another guy. I told her that in my view that butterflies in your stomach feeling fades in time, and that it is really more important to have someone who loves you, who is stable, and who will commit to making your life better each and every day, which he does. She said that she understood those things, but wanted more. I told her that if she continued to feel this way that I would not get married, because her marriage would be doomed to failure, and that a failed relationship would not be good for either one of them. In addition to not feeling romantically attracted to my best friend, she also seemed very uncomfortable with the idea of getting married to anyone. I told her that it could be that she was projecting her fear of commitment onto my best friend, and that if she didn't deal with the underlying issues causing her to be uncomfortable with getting married that her problems wouldn't be solved by merely breaking up with my friend. I suggested to her that she get herself in a place in her life where she was not dependent on anyone, and could therefore make the choice to get married or not not out of dependency but out of a desire for that in her life. She agreed to try to work towards becoming more stable and less dependent in her life, and we parted ways. A couple days after this conversation, she broke up with my best friend. Since we did have this conversation, I can't help but feel somewhat responsible for their relationship falling apart, although she did say she has tried to break up with him on multiple occasions, including when he asked her to marry him. Now she wants to stay living with him, as friends, and date other people, and he doesn't have the heart to kick her out, because he's such a wonderful person. I feel so bad for him, since he's my best friend, and he's done everything right in this relationship. He lives in San Francisco, and I live in San Diego, so I can't really do all that much to help him. We've been talking every day since, and I've offered to come and visit him, but I just wish I could do more. He appears to be taking the end of the relationship as well as can be expected, but I just feel so bad for him, and so upset with her that she led him along for three years when she knew all along that she didn't feel attracted to him in the same way he did to her.  
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on April 26, 2012, 08:23:35 PM
My special thanks to SK, KC, Sylvie, higashimori, TWOMULES, Jed Cooper, Richard Earl and Lin for your kind condolences.  Your encouragement and support at this time is greatly appreciated.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on April 26, 2012, 08:27:33 PM
Dear Elizabeth77--

I extend my condolences as well.

LCat
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: AKA23 on April 26, 2012, 08:44:30 PM
 Elizabeth, my heart goes out to you and your family. It sounds like your mother-in-law was a great lady! 85 is a long time for anyone to live, so it is great that she was around so long, and was so centered and grounded during her life that she chose to go out on her own terms, rather than fight what would have very likely been a losing battle. If more of our citizens had the wisdom, humility and grace of your mother-in-law, we would all be a lot better off. It's understandably sad to lose her, but it sounds like she made the choice that was right for her, and that she leaves behind a legacy to be proud of.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on April 26, 2012, 08:51:16 PM
Thank you, LCat and AKA23.  You are very kind. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Doug on April 28, 2012, 04:37:43 AM
My condolences to you and your family, Elizabeth, for the loss of your mother in law.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on July 07, 2012, 07:44:39 PM
Lately it seems I post in this thread more often than any other, but I guess that's the way life goes.

I received quite a shock this afternoon when my mother called to inform me that her second eldest brother died suddenly today.  I'm stunned.  He wasn't close to home, either, but was in Bermuda for four days with the male chorus he sings with.  It made the local news and they knew about as much as I do now.

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Tourist, 80, killed on livery cycle

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SATURDAY, JULY 7: A member of an overseas singing group was killed a few minutes after 10am this morning while riding his rental scooter.

The 80-year-old man was travelling west on South Road in the area of South Shore Park in Warwick, when he lost control of his cycle and went through a wooden railing.

Two bystanders administered CPR until the Fire Service arrived.

The tourist, from Florida, was eventually taken to King Edward VII Memorial Hospital where he later succumbed to his injuries.

An eyewitness said other members of the singing group seemed to be calm but other concerned people were seen crying.

Police said no further information will be given until the next of kin has been notified.

http://bermudasun.bm/main.asp?SectionID=24&SubSectionID=270&ArticleID=59467 (http://bermudasun.bm/main.asp?SectionID=24&SubSectionID=270&ArticleID=59467)

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on July 07, 2012, 08:36:47 PM
I am very sorry to hear that you lost your Uncle like this. You Have My Deepest Sympathy,E77 :'(







Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on July 07, 2012, 08:41:40 PM
So sorry to hear this, my condolences to you and your family, E77.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on July 07, 2012, 09:08:33 PM
Elizabeth, my deepest condolences.

At 80, it seems your uncle was still living life to the fullest. I wish he could have continued much, much longer!

May he rest in peace.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on July 08, 2012, 06:01:01 AM
Elizabeth, I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your Uncle.  As KC said it seem he was still having a great time at 80. 

I am thinking of you and sending you my deepest sympathy.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on July 08, 2012, 06:18:43 AM
I'm sorry for your loss, Elizabeth.

I admire that he was doing something that he loved.

LCat
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on July 12, 2012, 04:04:19 PM
TWOMULES, SK, KC, Lin and LCat, thank you for your kind condolences.  You are all so right, my uncle was living life to the fullest.  He always had a smile on his face and a cheerful word for all.  He had the incredible ability to remember almost everyone he ever met, and he genuinely cared about them.  While I'm very sorry that he's gone, I can't help but smile when thinking of him.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on July 12, 2012, 06:02:15 PM

 What sad news about your uncle, what a tragedy!!    All my condolence Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on November 11, 2012, 02:39:31 PM
My Father passed away on November 1. He wasn't a celebrity or did anything to become famous, he was just my Dad. It's been a tough few weeks, actually the last 18 months have been rough. Watching my Dad fight cancer and beat it. Only for it to come back and not let him win this time.

We were told on October 17 that he didn't have long left and some said knowing it was coming makes it a little easier for when the time comes and I can understand that but it really doesn't. In all the time my Dad was going back and forth to doctors and the hospital for treatment he never once complained or got angry. Something I'll always remember. I of course had my moments over the time and didn't handle it well. Getting upset and breaking my hand last year, the way I've spoken to people and getting upset at the smallest things. Losing friends because of it.

Thank you to everyone who emailed and PM'd their condolences to myself and my family. We're all so lucky to have made friends with people around the world over the net.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on November 11, 2012, 11:49:13 PM
I think you know you have friends here who share a little of the sadness you are feeling SK. We do understand what has been happening and feel for you.

Knowing someone you love is dying does not make it easier at all. When you lose someone the loss is the same no matter how it happens or if you are warned.

Your Dad was a very special person and kept his dignity and patience right to the end. May he rest in peace.

Thinking of you and sending deepest sympathy.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on November 12, 2012, 12:10:40 AM
I've been searching for something to say, and Lin has said everything I was searching for. I can only second everything she said.

I do want you to know that my thoughts are with you. May your father rest in peace.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: bdc28 on November 13, 2012, 06:04:33 AM
Hey Schofield,

I am so sorry for the loss of your Father..you are a wonderful son, please dont forget that.

I thought I would pass along a true story about when my Mother passed, maybe would help you have some small thoughts on it.I promise everything I am about to tell you is very true.

It had been awhile when my Mother passed, it was a hot summer night. My Daughter was about four months old and as a new father I was completely lost without her guidance. I have to admit, it wasnt getting any easier for me to deal with her passing, quite the opposite, it was getting much harder. I missed her everyday. I was getting despondent with my family, even detached, I guess afraid to take another major loss.

I went out to one of those old fashioned swings. As I said it was a horribly hot night, and summers in DC are very unique that DC sits on a swamp. So not only is it hot, its SUPER humid. My tank top was literally stuck to my chest as I swung back and forth.

I took a moment and looked up, very literally, and said "God look I know you arent much into doing favors...and if you were I certainly am not one that would deserve it. I need a favor, please...can you give me a sign, any sign, that my Mother is with you and is ok? I am not asking for the ground to open up, but anything...so I can know she is happy..."

...right as I was finishing that sentence...an UNUSUALLY, almost winter breeze blew....making me wrap my hands around my arms...it blew soft...and continuous...barely rustling the leaves on the trees...for a good five seconds....

..and just a suddenly as it started, it stopped....never to blow anything that cool again that night.

It was at that moment, I cried...I knew I had my answer.

Well, Id like to tell you that is the end of the story ....but its really not. See the part I didnt mention is that...well if you could link my zany sense of humor to ANYONE its my Mother. Despite my upbringing my house was filled with laughter either from her or myself and my brother from her....AND she was quite the prankster....so of course SHE has to get a word in, death isnt going to shut HER up.

Years later, it was a big moving day. We had planned on moving many of the things from one apartment to another...and just as we started to, first thing in the morning...the car goes out...I dont mean like it needs repair...I mean PERMANENTLY. So after getting to the apartment, getting the car towed...calling and getting a quote for a moving truck (which I needed family to bring over)...I was now stuck in the empty apartment waiting for people to arrive.

I looked out the window, thru the blinds, at the brown leaves that had fallen from the turning to autumn. I kept staring out the window....then I smiled...I looked up...and said "Damnit, you did this didnt you?" Smiling....

...and then blew that same breeze. :)


Hes always with you, please dont forget that.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on November 13, 2012, 07:03:57 AM
That's a beautiful story, bdc, thanks for telling it here!
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Hemlock on November 19, 2012, 12:42:57 PM
My condolences Scofield.I know exactly how you feel as I was in same situation in summer 2011 when my father died quite suddenly.He had very aggressive lungcancer which nobody knew before it was already too late.
Anyway at time I was very grief stricken and I still miss him a lot but the old phrase that time helps is true in some degree.It gets better but it`s not going to be easy.
So hang in there and I wish you all the best.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on November 20, 2012, 05:08:49 PM
This is by no means as sad as the above posts, however it is sad for my Meg.

Took Meg for a walk and while we were out she was picking up her Frisbee and managed to bite on a stick, it lodged in her mouth. Got it out and then with her whimpering and bleeding walked her home as fast as I could, while on the mobile to the vet. Put her in the car and drove straight up to Richmond. The vet kept her in and hopefully she will be home tomorrow. They rang me earlier this evening to tell me they had flushed out the wound and it was now clean. However there is a large hole and it is very deep, right on the join at the back of her jaw. Poor thing she will be very sore for a few days. I don't think I have ever walked/run so fast for such a distance with her before. She was in the vets in just over 15 minutes and I was totally shattered and out of breath. All is OK now that she is being cared for and on painkillers. I have been sitting by the fire with a large much needed cuppa.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on November 20, 2012, 05:16:46 PM
Awww, poor Meg! I hope she is feeling all better soon.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on November 21, 2012, 01:25:52 AM
Thank you KC.  I hope to pick her up from the vet this morning.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Sylvie on November 21, 2012, 02:03:29 AM
Poor Meg, and poor Lin., you are surely upset, and I cross my fingers waiting to read your kind Dog feels better ...
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Lin Sunderland on November 21, 2012, 02:56:22 AM
Thank you Sylvie.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on November 22, 2012, 02:48:16 PM
Thanks everyone for the kind words, PM's, emails and cards since my father's passing.

Lin, I hope Meg is back on her paws in no time. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Doug on November 23, 2012, 04:21:18 PM
SK, my condolences on the passing of your father.  I hope you're coping well.  I wish you and your family the best.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on November 23, 2012, 06:05:26 PM
SK, my condolences on the passing of your father.  I hope you're coping well.  I wish you and your family the best.

Thank you Doug. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: LCat on November 23, 2012, 10:05:48 PM
My Father passed away on November 1. He wasn't a celebrity or did anything to become famous, he was just my Dad. It's been a tough few weeks, actually the last 18 months have been rough. Watching my Dad fight cancer and beat it. Only for it to come back and not let him win this time.

We were told on October 17 that he didn't have long left and some said knowing it was coming makes it a little easier for when the time comes and I can understand that but it really doesn't. In all the time my Dad was going back and forth to doctors and the hospital for treatment he never once complained or got angry. Something I'll always remember. I of course had my moments over the time and didn't handle it well. Getting upset and breaking my hand last year, the way I've spoken to people and getting upset at the smallest things. Losing friends because of it.

Thank you to everyone who emailed and PM'd their condolences to myself and my family. We're all so lucky to have made friends with people around the world over the net.

Sorry you lost your dad, SK. My mom had cancer, too. She had a tumor that weighed OVER 100 pounds. I don't know how many kgs that is, though it's probably easy for me to figure out. She died without so much as a whimper, though she suffered greatly. I burnt out after caring for her, handling her funeral and other affairs. I didn't handle her demise as well as I would have liked, but I can't beat myself up for that, too.

It took me almost 20 years to come to terms with my mom's death and find peace. I hope you find peace much sooner than that, if you haven't found it already!

All the best.

LCat
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on November 27, 2012, 06:21:13 PM
Thank you LCat. :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on May 23, 2016, 07:53:22 PM
My beloved cockatiel died at 4:40 am today.  I heard him fall off his perch and flap around on the bottom of his cage.  I went to comfort him, but there was nothing I could do for him except stroke his back and quiet him.  It means a lot to me that I was there and didn't just find him there a couple of hours later.

I've had many pets through the years, and many of them have died on me, but Jingo was with us for 25 years.  I received him as an 8th grade graduation present 25 years ago (two weeks from now).  He was about a year old at the time.  He lived with my sister's family for 18 of those years, only returning to me three years ago.  No matter how long the time between visits, he always treated me as someone very special.  He brought beauty, joy and song into our home and will be sorely missed.  :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on May 23, 2016, 08:15:30 PM
(http://www.smithsflowers.com/uimages/image/Birth%20Flowers/March%20Daffodil(1).jpg)

Pets bring so much love to our lives, and when they pass on, it's like losing a family member.  Sorry for your loss, Elizabeth.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: higashimori on May 23, 2016, 09:10:59 PM
(http://www.smithsflowers.com/uimages/image/Birth%20Flowers/March%20Daffodil(1).jpg)

Pets bring so much love to our lives, and when they pass on, it's like losing a family member.  Sorry for your loss, Elizabeth.

 I agreed!  :(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on May 24, 2016, 12:47:56 AM
My beloved cockatiel died at 4:40 am today.  I heard him fall off his perch and flap around on the bottom of his cage.  I went to comfort him, but there was nothing I could do for him except stroke his back and quiet him.  It means a lot to me that I was there and didn't just find him there a couple of hours later.

I've had many pets through the years, and many of them have died on me, but Jingo was with us for 25 years.  I received him as an 8th grade graduation present 25 years ago (two weeks from now).  He was about a year old at the time.  He lived with my sister's family for 18 of those years, only returning to me three years ago.  No matter how long the time between visits, he always treated me as someone very special.  He brought beauty, joy and song into our home and will be sorely missed.  :'(

My condolences, Elizabeth!  :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: The Schofield Kid on May 24, 2016, 03:20:55 AM
So sorry to hear about Jingo, E77.

My condolences.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on June 30, 2016, 10:48:50 PM
A beloved library worker recently lost his job due to discrimination.

http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/beloved-cat-fired-job-local-public-library/story?id=40200707

Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on June 30, 2016, 10:55:32 PM
So, after looking at that link, you'll wonder "what discrimination"?

As it turns out, this whole thing seems to have started when some bozo was told they couldn't bring their dog to work, and he/she said "Well, they allow a cat to be at the library, I should be allowed to bring a dog here."  Now, thanks to that.. this cat, who apparently had a great home and gave kids another reason to want to go to the library, needs to find a new home.

I just sent an email to the mayor, and you can do the same -- it takes one minute to do it:  http://www.new.wstx.us/city-council/
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on July 01, 2016, 01:37:34 AM
Some people are allergic to cats, you know.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on July 01, 2016, 03:06:20 AM
The cat keeps the rodents away. So now they have to spray the library with pesticides ... which get on the pages of the books (so the activists are saying).  ;)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on July 01, 2016, 06:59:30 AM
That's nonsense. Some "activists" have entirely too much time on their hands.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on July 03, 2016, 09:56:02 AM
Just heard on the radio that the "activists" have won. The cat stays.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on July 03, 2016, 10:06:51 AM
Just heard on the radio that the "activists" have won. The cat stays.

(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/2ZryemOyIY8/hqdefault.jpg)

Out of all the important missions I've taken part in, it's a little sad that the ONE that actually panned out was this one... but what the heck, I'll take whatever minor victories I can get.  :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Gant on July 08, 2016, 11:17:04 PM
Throughout the late 70's and early 80's me and my friends regularly made the pilgrimage to a seaside town on the east coast of England called Southend on Sea, about an hours journey away to buy our records at a small independent  record shop called Record Mart... Run by a lovely guy and avid collector called Derek.... Saving up our pocket money, buying up whatever rare American imports Derek had in stock that particular weekend... It was the beginning of a passion for collecting that is still with me to this day...
Over the years I'd gone there less and less as I'd moved further away, the last time probably about 10 years ago with my young son..

Yesterday I was in Southend on business and decided to pop in... Very sad to see the shop now closed down. A local told me the block was being re developed and Derek had closed the shop just a couple of weeks earlier. Peering thru the window everything looked exactly the same as it had nearly 40 years ago, minus the stacks of records. I thought back at just how many records I'd bought across that tiny counter with hard saved pocket money as a youngster, the fantastic music I'd been introduced to, the friends we'd meet there on Saturday afternoons and discuss our purchases...

The whole scene reminded me of that Night Gallery episode.. " They're Tearing Down Tim Riley's Bar"
and left me with a feeling of melancholy the rest of the day...

I thanked the local, took a couple of pics and left...

Time moves on I guess.... but another piece of my youth has disappeared....
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on July 09, 2016, 12:20:11 AM
That is very sad indeed, Gant ... especially since you just missed getting there in time to say goodbye and maybe pick up a last treasure or two. Don't you wish you had a time machine sometimes?
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Gant on July 11, 2016, 12:09:06 AM
Certainly do :)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: KC on February 13, 2017, 01:47:25 AM
Our longtime member AKA23 shared some sad news with the Moderators today. His favorite uncle has passed away in London. He hadn't seen him in two years, and had been looking forward to a visit with him him in a couple of weeks, when he was going to fly over to celebrate a family wedding. Instead, now he is flying there to support his family at this tragic time. Making the loss even worse, this uncle was the oldest brother in the family and so had the place of head of the family.

AKA said it was OK to share this with the Board, so we're posting it here in the hope that some of you will want to offer your support at a time when he feels he needs all the help he can get.

—KC, for the Mods
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Elizabeth77 on February 13, 2017, 03:37:12 AM
Thank you, KC, for sharing that with us. AKA23's family is most certainly in my thoughts and prayers.  :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: TWOMULES on February 13, 2017, 10:15:51 AM
I am deeply sorry for your loss, AKA23. :'(
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on February 13, 2017, 11:33:47 PM
 :'(  My thoughts are with you. Hoping you're hanging in there okay, friend.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: AKA23 on February 24, 2017, 06:51:36 AM
Thanks everyone for your best wishes. It is a tough loss for me. Making it even more difficult, I don't really have any friends in the area in which I live. So, I've gone from having the entire family around me in London to having to go through this grieving process alone now that I've returned to the States. I'm throwing myself into work and hoping that things will get easier over time. I posted this on Facebook and thought I'd share it with you all. I'm trying to derive some meaning from this experience and hope to be able to use it as motivation for me!

A little over a week ago today, my Dad's oldest brother, who was my favorite uncle, died from complications after a fall. In Arab culture, the oldest brother is the head of the family, so this is a huge loss for us all. I've just returned from his funeral in London. I didn't just love him. I looked up to him too, and I can't even look at a picture of him without crying. What I most admired about him was his resilience, his perseverance, and his unbelievable ability to remain hopeful and optimistic no matter what challenges he faced.

My uncle suffered from Type II Diabetes for decades, and over the course of his life, he had five heart attacks, yet through it all he kept going and remained positive. Few men could have maintained that outlook in the face of so much adversity, but he could and did. In our last conversation three weeks ago, I asked him how he was feeling and he said he was feeling good that day, but that he didn't know about tomorrow. He said that he never worried about it, and had been that way throughout his life because worrying never solves any problem.

In tribute to him, I resolve to do three things: To learn to be more hopeful and optimistic, to do everything I can to avoid suffering from the Type II Diabetes that made the latter part of his life so challenging, and to provide support and comfort to my family as we all grieve this loss. He was a wonderful man, and it's the least I can do to honor him. That will be his legacy to me.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on February 24, 2017, 11:31:56 AM
AKA, I think you have more friends than you realize. You have us here, and from what I know of your job, they love and respect you there too. I've never spent a Christmas with my boss's family -- it says a lot that you were invited.

Your uncle would be very proud of your tribute.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: AKA23 on February 25, 2017, 07:30:05 AM
I've always liked the board and the members here, and you in particular are great, Matt. I think the people I work with do respect me and like me as a colleague. But with the exception of one person, I've never hung out with any of them outside of work. Even when I hung out with my coworker, I never talked about any of my personal struggles and usually focused on her rather than myself. The relationships at work that I have are very superficial and usually focus on our work. To me, superficial relationships aren't really reliable or true friendships.
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Matt on February 25, 2017, 10:07:27 AM
To me, superficial relationships aren't really reliable or true friendships.

I agree -- I think, in fact, that's the definition of a superficial relationship.

Well, we're all here for you. I owe you a PM -- I had a virus that somehow managed to steal access to my business bank account and wipe it out (that could be its own post in this thread), so I had to scrub my computer, which took me offline for a while. Trying to get caught up now (PS, all is fine with my account -- since it's fraud, the funds were replaced, but I had to take preventive measures so it wouldn't happen again.)
Title: Re: The "Sad, shed a Tear" Thread
Post by: Doug on February 25, 2017, 04:51:40 PM
Best wishes to you, AKA. We could all do well to follow your uncle's lead.